5 Reasons Why Porn is Bad for Your Dating Life

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One of the most sadly ironic things about porn: the more you watch others having sex, the less sex you end up having. Unless you consider sex with your hands and toys sex. In a nutshell, porn is bad for your dating life.

Deep down, I’ve always known that porn had a negative effect on me. Habitual effects, mostly. Staying up late watching porn would make me dead tired in the morning. Masturbating to porn would make it take forever for me to get off when I had actual sex. But one thing I didn’t realize was how much porn was hurting my game.

Reason #1: Wandering Eyes

Keeping a steady, non-creepy gaze on your gazelle is good game. Staring at her breasts is not. Unfortunately, watching porn conditions us to expect nudity. This means our eyes will naturally gravitate to staring at a girl’s assets – probably more than you do already. Why does this hurt your game? 1) The creepiness factor. 2)  Ogling her with ape-eyes means you’re too interested in her…more than she is in you.

Reason #2: Energy Zap

Late nights staying up with fill in your fav porn star here usually means: raccoon eyes, some selfish self-pity, and low energy for the rest of the next day. To be successful in dating, you have to be mentally aware. This means being sharp in conversation, paying attention to what the lady is saying and using that information to deepen your game (whether your style is negging, storytelling, or a mix of all common sense dating strategies). You don’t want to be that low-energy guy in the group, especially in high-energy environments like the dance club or bar. Get your sleep man.

Reason #3: Wandering Mind 

Years of watching porn tends to make your mind sexualize even the most normal of situations. This may warp your mind into the wrong frame of focusing on getting a girl into bed, rather than having fun and creating an irresistible attraction towards you. Keep your head in the game.

Reason #4: Momentum & Motivation Killer

Porn is like replacement sex. Or a replacement girlfriend. The sheer ease of access and availability can make you subconsciously think: “well…instead of going out tonight I can just watch porn.” It’s way easier, and it kills your motivation to go out and conquer. A life stuck to the laptop screen makes for not a very social life. Stay motivated and get off porn. In fact, take a break from technology once in a while.

Reason #5: In-Bed Performance 

Oh man. This is a big one. First, brainwashing yourself with millions of images of porn and then jacking off to it will create unrealistic expectations of sex. It doesn’t even matter if you really have a fairytale view of what real sex should be, because your body’s not going to lie. You’re not going to be able to come, have a hard time doing so, or not enjoy sex as a human normally would. That’s because you’re used to virtual sex and have embedded in your psychology to respond to porn on the internet…instead of having real, intimate sex.  Don’t let yourself ruin one of the best things about life – sex – by allowing porn to take over your mind. Lack of in-bed performance is the ultimate way to ruin your game – even when you have the girl you’re not able to enjoy a sexual experience with her.

I’m sure you can think of many more, but here are the five biggest ways how porn can really screw your game up. Take time to step away from the computer and seriously cut down on porn usage. You’ll thank yourself for it.

Best,

Marc

Posted on December 8, 2011 in blog, Game

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